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		*FINDING A GOOD MATE* Here are some tips to help you along the way to finding a good mate. 1.Go out to more social events and join clubs you more likely to meet someone than locking yourself in the house. 2.Base your choice more on his character than looks. 3.Do not be in a hurry to be intimate with him. You need to know him well before you get that close to him. 4.Develop traits that you want in him. It is said that you often attract people similar to you. 5.If you pursue your interest, you have a chance to meet someone to meet someone who likes the same things as you do. 6.Dont set unrealistic expectations. 7.Be honest, do not hide who you really are. 8.Work on things that hurt you in the past and learn to trust again. 9.Know yourself well. 10.Accept yourself first before someone else can.
		*BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP* There are several things you could do to strengthen your relationship. Spend time together to avoid drifting apart. Express love and romance to each other. Communicate with each other openly and honestly to avoid misunderstandings. Agree that you dont always share the same opinions and respect each others differences. Control your fights before they escalate into violence and avoid saying things out of anger. Develop you self esteem so that you don`t become overly dependent on your partner to make you feel good. Allow each other to have space and hobbies away from each other. Encourage by influence not by giving orders. *Build trust and not destroy it.
		*GETTING OVER A RELATIONSHIP* 1.If you don`t plan on getting back together, try to avoid being friends or asking about him in case you hear about his new love. 2.Be forgiving of not only him but yourself. This does not mean letting him walk all over you but letting things go. Don`t be bitter. 3.Take some time to heal emotional wounds. 4.Rebuild self-esteem;the belief that you can face life`s challenges by yourself with courage without depending on others. 5.Stay busy with exercise and hobbies. 6.Do not look at old pictures you took together or go the places you used to go together. 7.Don`t isolate yourself from friends go out to have fun. 8.Build trust in yourself and others. 9.Overcome issues that lead to the break up. For example if you were possessive let it go because you don`t want to make the same mistakes as you did in the past. 10.It`s important to write your true feelings of rage or hurt in a journal to it helps a lot during this.You don`t want to repeat the same mistakes in another relationship.
*COMMUNICATING LOVE* Your partner needs to feel loved and appreciated by you. he cannot guese your thoughts. But the way in which he most feels loved is different from you. Don`t give him what you like. Find out what he likes most. When you love show him love he will reciprocate. There are five forms of love language: 1.Gifts. 2.Quality time. 3.Touch 4.Acts of service 5.Words of affirmation Do more of what your partner needs.
	*ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS* There are several things that women ought to watch out for when it come the relationships potential to become abusive. They are a warning signal for violent behavior. A man who has a history of violence. If he was abused or witnessed abuse. * If he isolates you from friends or family. * He threatens you. Has a short temper. Overly criticizes you about your appearance or other miner issues. He is possessive. Blames you for his mistakes. Asks you to perform uncomfortable sexual acts. Embarrasses you in public.	*DIVORCE* Divorce is a painful thing and should be avoided unless one faces a case of abuse or mistreatment. When you get married, enter with a plan to stay and work things out. Never marry just to get your way. Dont change partners without dealing with issues for they will reappear in the next marriage. Seek friendships with people who have successful marriages. This allows to learn how to related to your partner like they do. PREVENTION Take care of your appearance. Some people tend to let themselves go after a couple of years in the marriage. Stay faithful to your partner even if you find people other than him attractive. Show you appreciation for your partner. Whether they are stay at home Parents or have busy work schedule. Communicate with each other to stay close. *Todays lifestyle can be very busy and demanding especially of you live in a big city with a busy just. Find time to connect. You can set a date night to ensure that you maintain a close bond.